The dog that gave me another shot at life

I grew up loving dogs. Our family had 4 mixed breeds and they were a loving bunch. But when I went to college, my interaction with dogs became less since I was too busy studying. And after several more years, our dogs that I grew up with passed away one by one. Up until then, I seem to lose interest with dogs but I do pat one in the head whenever I find a pup that will not bite.

Two years ago, my partner has convinced me to buy a dog from a K-9 service company that was closing down. Having almost always alone in the house at that time (my partner’s work assignments at that time were out of the metro) I agreed to get a dog. When we came to the kennel to pick up a dog, I immediately took a liking at the matured, big labrador dog that the keeper brought out from the cage. So we brought Tetay home with us at that day. 

The robust dame is a retired bomb explosive sniffing dog and her demeanor is calm and submissive. This has been one of the factors why we get along well. But there were episodes that she got bored and chewed everything in the house. 😣 

Day by day, we grew up to like each other. We took walks together when my partner is not around. She would be up all night making sure that no one would force their way inside house. We would even eat together. But more than anything else, Tetay has saved me from my lowest point in my life.

I had so much pressures at that time- work, relationships, family. I had so much in my plate that day by day, I started to go down the dumps. I initially thought that the blues were temporary. However, my anxiety attacks grew worst especially when I was home alone. I would not sleep until the wee hours of the morning and by the time I got to shut down my eyes,nightmares would woke me up shaking and crying. 

Through these trying times, Tetay would come inside the room, put her head in my shoulders and tried to comfort me. She would never leave my side until the anxiety attacks were over, until I got back to sleep. Maybe she sensed something was wrong at that time because she refused to leave my side. She was always there for me. She has become my comfort. 

Those episodes have longed passed. And the more I think of it today, the more I appreciate the value of friendship that I developed with my dog. She treated me as her own family, not only a bestfriend. And as she starts to grow old, I cannot and will not give up on her until the end because she did not give up on me when I was about to give up on myself. 

MAMARAMA: The Dilemma of Being a Supermom

“Mom, what time are you coming home?”

This is no longer an extraordinary question that you can hear from children nowadays since in this modern times, more and more women are joining the workforce market. You can always find a career woman everywhere in the career ladder. Thus, it is not uncommon to find many of these career women are actually working moms who struggle to keep their work-life balance.

There are many reasons why most modern moms choose to tackle a career than to be full-time moms. One of he main reasons is economics and in this hard time it is better to have two monthly paychecks footing the bill to make ends meet. It is therefore an understatement when these career moms complain about “struggling to keep their sanity”. I, as a working mom do feel the difficulty of fulfilling two roles at the same time. Most of the time, the family is getting side-tracked in the process and to pressure to deal with this kind of situation is not a pleasant experience and leaves a great emotional burden.  A colleague of mine once asked me “Do your children still know you?” Well, I replied “YES” positively but that question lingers at the back of my mind up to this day.

If you are struggling to cope with the woes of being a career mom, here are some things that you can consider to manage the stress of being a “supermom”:

Don’t bring your work home

Dont bring work home

With the advancement of modern technology, it is easier for us to be rubbed off of quality time from our family. Workplace concern can easily seep through your personal space through your mobile phones, emails, laptops, etc. It is difficult not to attend to them even when you are already at the comfort of your home. It is hard not to take a peek at your work emails and phone messages  but as much as possible, refrain from doing it. Do remember that at home, family should be your first priority.

Spend fun times with your family during your day offs

Family_Bonding

Sometimes t is easier to just lay in bed doing nothing the whole day on your day off. There are also times that you feel you are lagging behind with the household chores that you choose to complete them while you have time. Whatever you want to do during your day off, always find time to spend for your family. Do fun-filled activities together. It could be watching your favorite tv shows or the latest movies together, cooking your favorite meals and dining together or playing your favorite games. It does need to be expensive. The important thing here is being able to bond with your family.

Call  your family members at least once a day while you are at work

Calls at work

No matter how busy they are, you make sometime to check with your family at least once a day. Call them during your lunch break or any time of the day when your workload is not too many. Ask them about their day and make sure they are okay. It is one way of reassuring them that you care for them. Your communication line should always be open for your family.

Money is not always everything

money is not everything

It is easier to equate that so long as we are providing for our family, we are showing our love for them. However, do remember that love is not measured by material things but by the time that is well spent with our loved ones. If you feel you are sacrificing your family’s welfare in the process of juggling a career, then it is time for you to stop and think. If it is no longer worth the sacrifice then it is a sign that you need to let go of your career and start anew. There are a lot of other options for moms to make money out there, you just need to discover it.